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Overcoming Shame: One of The Hardest Things To Do

 

Shame is a powerful and pervasive emotion that can haunt us long after the initial event that triggered it. It lingers within our minds and hearts, casting a dark shadow on our self-worth and preventing us from fully embracing life. Overcoming shame is one of the toughest battles a person can face, precisely because it resides deep within us, often hidden from the world and those that love us.

 

In our society, millions of people carry the weight of shame silently, trapped by their own internal struggles. Sadly, our prideful tendencies can unknowingly exacerbate their pain, pushing them further into the depths of shame. Within every family, someone, if not everyone, is holding onto, hiding, or secretly dealing with some form of shame. We may unknowingly contribute to their isolation if we fail to display empathy and understanding.

 

As a pastor, I have witnessed the destructive power of shame and its effects on individuals' lives. I personally have to work on it constantly. That is why I want to share four keys to help you overcome shame and begin your journey towards freedom.

#1: Learn to Give Yourself Empathy

The first step towards healing from shame is learning to give yourself empathy. This requires stepping out of your current perspective and immersing yourself in the experience that led to your shame. Recognize where you were at that time, both emotionally and mentally. Understand why you allowed it to happen and why you may not have responded as strongly as you wished you had. You owe it to yourself to offer understanding and compassion for the person you were in that moment.

 

 #2: Recognize That You're Not Alone

Shame thrives in isolation, convincing us that we are the only ones grappling with such deep-seated emotions. However, the truth is that many others suffer from shame as well. It often manifests as anger and difficult behavior, as the roots of shame run deep and impact our actions and interactions. By recognizing that the negative behaviors we witness in the world are often born out of a painful past, we can find solace in the shared experience. Connecting with others who have faced similar struggles can provide a sense of support and reassurance along the path to healing.

 

 #3: Embrace Truth and Find Liberation

Running from shame, lying about it, or wallowing in it will never set us free. To overcome shame, we must embrace the truth and examine it in detail. Within our shame, we will find elements that are undeniably true, but we must also acknowledge the lies that shame whispers to us. It takes courage and vulnerability to face our shame head-on, but doing so is the gateway to liberation. Embracing our shame with an open heart allows us to separate the truth from the lies, leading us towards a newfound sense of freedom.

 

 #4: Know That God Loves Us, Even in Our Shame

In our darkest moments, it is easy to believe that God turns His heart away from us because of the shame we carry. However, the truth is that God loves us unconditionally, regardless of our past mistakes or the shame we feel. He does not shy away from our brokenness; rather, He runs toward us with open arms. If we are willing to listen, we will hear His voice and experience His love. He longs to sing over us a liberating melody that will bring healing and restoration to our lives.

 

As we embark on our journey to overcome shame, let us remember to keep looking up. The path may be challenging, but with empathy, the realization that we are not alone, the embrace of truth, and the knowledge of God's unwavering love, we can find the strength and courage to break free from the chains of shame. 

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